Jasmine Zik: Going Natural? Find Out How to Choose Your Products

Whether you call it a trend, a movement, an identity or anything else, I believe going natural is one of the healthiest decision one can ever make concerning one’s body.

It not only transforms the structure of your hair and looks, it sorta transforms your mind! You become more aware of things/substances you previously ignored, begin to see benefits and disadvantages of some habitsand foods you eat. It also makes you more inquisitive, careful and creative.

Stop for a moment and think about it…since you decided to go natural you’re kinda eating healthy foods, you’re reading up more articles to find out ‘how and why’ on issues relating to your hair, you’re trying out new things, aren’t you? Coming up with your own DIY for almost everything-hahahahaha… it clicked yeah?

What have you become? A scientist? A researcher? Socialist? Advocate? Healthier? You’re drinking loads of water, eating fruits and foods you didn’t care much about – at a rate that might even sound alarming considering your kind of person.

You find yourself concocting things in your kitchen like a scientist carrying out experiments in the lab that leaves everyone around you, especially the boyswho don’t get it, speechless and wondering why you’re pouring stuff that’s meant to be cooked in a pot on your hair, saying it’ll make it healthy…. Yep! We all get that.

Peradventure you’re new to this- being natural-doing the big chop or transitioning and you’re feeling lost as all the info you get are overwhelming, relax! you’ll get a grasp of it very soon and quickly too.

One of the major problems we encounter is choosing products that would work. Here are a few guidelines that should help…

Know your hair and what it needs
You might need to do a few experiments at the beginning stage and you should be aware that it’s sometimes, more difficult for transitioners as they deal with two different textures. You can start with products from the same line as they were made to work together(for example, you can use shampoo, conditioner, cowash and deep conditioner from Eden Body Works,the Mane Choice or Cantu etc). Later on, you can create your own hair care regimen.

Budget
Make a list of the basic products. It’ll help you know how much you’ll be spending; after a while you’ll get a hang of how long they last for you, then you’ll be able to tell how often you’ll be spending. Be sure to subscribe to natural hairblogs,newsletters,follow pages on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter to be alerted when sales are going on. That way you’ll be able to save a few bucks on products.

Contents
After you have found out what your hair needs (find the basics here), you will need to watch out for harmful ingredients in certain products and also ingredients that your hair doesn’t work well with(watch out for reactions, a product worked for me doesn’t necessarily translate that it would work as well as it did for you).

Communicate
Read reviews on products,blogs and articles. Don’t be shy or afraid to speak to someone with gorgeous hair, who you think might help on how they achieved a style or what products they use. Share your opinions especially a new hair hackyou figured out (you don’t have to start a blog,but why not! if you want to).

Make friends, Who knows? They might own products that don’t work for them but works for you. Who says no to freebies? You can even trade/swap products.

Experiment
Don’t be afraid to use DIY products sometimes, it’ll help your product last longer and save you immediate expenses. Sometimes ‘quantity’ is ‘quality’ sometimes it’s not; at other times ‘expensive’ doesn’t exactly mean ‘best’. Be sure during your experimentation periods to try out cheaper products, or ones in smaller or larger quantities, you’ll be surprised!

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First Photos: Yemi Alade, Waje, Frank Donga, Vanessa Mdee, Efya, Ikechukwu & more at UBA CEO Awards

Yemi Alade

The 9th edition of the annual UBA CEO Awards held Saturday night in Lagos where the stars and CEOs (of course) showed up in style, including Tony Elumelu and his beautiful wife Awele.

The awards were given to star performers of the bank for their exemplary performance, in Nigeria and beyond.

Guests included international African singers Tanzanian Vanessa Mdee, Ghanaian Efya, Waje, Ikechukwu, Yemi Alade, actor Frank Donga (Kunle Idowu), designer Ayo van Elmar, host of The Sauce – Seyitan, Tomi Odunsi and more.

Here are first photos.

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Waje

Frank Donga

Vanessa Mdee and Salha Kibwana

Ikechukwu

Efya, Vanessa Mdee, Salha Kibwana

Seyitan – Host of The Sauce on Red TV

Tomi Odunsi

Designer Ayo van Elmar

Tony Elumelu, Seyitan of the Sauce, Awele Elumelu

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John Dumelo shares his views on how to treat women

Ghanaian star actor, John Dumelo penned down his view on how to treat women …He shared them on his instagram page and
I must say, he is spot on..Read below

My view on how to treat women.
1.Don’t compare your wife to other women. You don’t know what their husbands are going through.

2. NEVER expose your wife’s weakness to your family or friends or run to them whenever you have issues. Problems are best solved between you and your woman.


3. Don’t think you are man so you can use intimidation, shout or violence to communicate your moods. Agreesive men don’t make a happy home.

4. Speak gently and calmly to your wife. Never raise your voice at her, it demeans her and shows you think she is stupid.
5. Do your responsibilities as man…don’t leave every to your woman.

6. Never blame your wife if she doesn’t take care of the home everyday. She is swamped with house work and helping you raise the kids.

7. Don’t be wasteful spending money on drinks, friends and extended family.The wife and children are your first responsibility.

8. Sex is also important to women. Her pleasure should be considered before your own.
9. Never compare your wife to your ex-girlfriends. If you loved them so much why didn’t you marry them instead of your wife.

10. Never shout down your wife or challenge her in front of the children. The children are watching. They won’t listen and obey her too.

11. Tell your wife she’s beautiful even if you know she’s looking normal. Women love compliment.

12. Don’t forget that women also want attention and someone to share their thougts with. Never be too busy for your wife.

13. A prayerful man is a better equipped husband. Pray always for your wife and family. Don’t leave the prayers to your wife.

14.Treat your wife like a queen. Buy her gifts, take her shopping and once in a while, cook for her.

15.Please don’t forget your these anniversary dates. Wedding ,engagement,the first time you kissed. I beg you. These dates mean a lot to women. (Don’t ask me why). I also don’t know.

16. Your mother should not have the final say in your marriage. You married your wife, not you and your mother. Let her talk in her own husband’s house.

17.There are 5 days each month that you have to say “I’m sorry”, “yes baby” and “I love you” more than 7 times a day. That’s when she’s menstrating. #jmelo

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Couple’s intimate hospital reunion after surviving car crash goes melts hearts

An intimate photo showing the moment a couple embrace for the first time after a horrific car crash has melted hearts of thousands of well-wishers online.
Arika Stovall and Hunter Hanks, both 21, from Nashville, Tennessee, survived a crash after Hunter’s truck veered off the road and slammed into a bridge on New Years Day.

The touching picture of the two taken by a friend and posted to Facebook has now been shared over 77,000 times on Facebook.
Arika said in her Facebook post

“I’m overwhelmed at how little damage was done to Hunter and I in a wreck that should have chopped our bodies in half,”“When we were both lying in our beds in the ER he (Hanks) found a way to come protect my heart and give me a hug.”

A close friend of the couple Savannah Gaines, who snapped the touching moment, told CNN :

 “It was unbelievable when they saw each other.
“I know them so well, and they love each other so much. They were completely blessed to walk away from that.”

Arika also says that in the dark moments after the life-changing crash she was visited by a “guardian angel” she described as a man bright with a big white beard. 

“I jumped out of the car, ran over to Hunters side and just looked at this man,’ she wrote.
“From that moment until Hunter was cut & lifted out of the truck I believe with my whole heart that looking at this man helped me to literally believe in that moment that Hunter was next to me on the road.
“I don’t know if it was a hallucination or me unconsciously dreaming or a glimpse of heaven…but all I knew in that moment was that Hunter was safe with me.
“This man..looking at him for a short moment..helped me not witness Hunter being peeled out of the truck. I believe if I saw that I would have had a heart attack.”

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These Photos Should motivate You….

amazing

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Wow: Check Out 5 Ways To Become More Desirable To Your Husband – 3 And 4 Very Informative

Often times life after marriage gets in the way of the relationship between you and your spouse. You may notice your partner is not really interested in you as he was initially and your sex life is dying slowly.

You can always turn things around by revamping your life, get back on track and focus on that trait that made him fall in-love with you in the first place. The truth is that he can only love you as much as you love yourself.

Here are 5 ways you can try to spice up your life once again according to Huffington Post:

1. Leave the house: We don’t mean you should pack up your stuffs and exit the door. Get out and do exciting things that’ll bring back color to your life. DInner with friends, dance classes, anything that allows you enjoy yourself.

2. Look for your passion: Your passion about things may be what made him fall in love with you in the first place. Go find it during your free time, dig up your interests – art, music, you name it.

3. Be fashionable to please you: Spend extra time to make yourself look pretty and sexy. Trust us, he’ll notice.

4. Do fun things with your family: Make out time for your family. Families that play together, stay together. Engage your husband and children in fun activities within and outside your community.

5. Enjoy being alone: However you can, enjoy yourself. It’s okay to seek your husband’s company, don’t feel too bad if he rejects. When you enjoy being alone, you feel good about yourself. Never fail to tell your partner how you feel about your relationship.

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tips to getting over a divorce trauma (7 tips)

Falling enthusiastically infatuated with somebody is a standout amongst the most thrilling sentiments, as though you had wings and you are flying high in

the sky, feeling the twist impractically blowing through your hair. Furthermore, ordinarily, when adoration closes, it feels as though you’ve been dropped like a stone in mid-air. You scramble to seize a something … anything, as you witness your body falling at incredible paces, and after that shattering on the earth underneath. 

Whether we’re discussing breakups, or confronting the truth of an uneven sentiment, it is agonizing. To such an extent that it upsets our typical stream of encounters, making us not work regularly. 

With so much feeling put and our personalities tied in with these encounters, it’s no big surprise this is the most obvious point asked for by perusers. Over the previous year, I have consistently gotten email from perusers sharing their own particular tackles excruciating breakups; stories of blame, of apprehension, of disappointment, and of hatred. Despite the fact that the stories were distinctive, the hidden message was all inclusive and one in the same, “I am in such a great amount of torment from not being with this individual – what would I be able to do?” 

At times, the agony of lost affection is intense to the point that it can shake our convictions about sentiment and connections. At the point when these enthusiastic wounds are not comprehended and have not mended legitimately, they get to be imperceptible things that drag with us into the following relationship. This article concentrates on the recuperating process from “affection lost”. 


7 Tips Getting Over a Break Up                             

1. Giving up 





What might you do if your home was blazed to the ground, and all that you possessed was annihilated? I’m certain you’d be disappointed and furious at to start with, however in the meantime, no measure of displeasure will fix what has been finished. It is the thing that it is. Your most solid option is to start proceeding onward, and working towards making another home. 

So also, when a relationship closes, you’ll need to work on giving up and permitting the mending procedure to start rapidly. 

On the off chance that you were forced to bear a separation, don’t harp on whether the individual will return or not, on the off chance that they said a final farewell to you at a certain point, odds are, something isn’t right with the attack of your association, and you’ll be better refreshing somewhere else, with another person. Regardless of the fact that you and the ex get back together, it is unrealistic to last (from my experience). 

Trust that everything in the Universe happens for a reason, and it advantages everybody included over the long haul, regardless of the fact that the advantages are not yet clear. Trust this is the most ideal thing to transpire at this moment, and the reasons will turn out to be clear later on. 

2. Discharge Tension and Bundled Up Energy 

We all have the should comprehended and listened. Whether we’re in a bad way or the starting end of a separation, we regularly convey with us the pressure and any unexpressed feelings. We can discharge this additional vitality by: 

Discussing it with a companion. 

Voicing our conclusions genuinely and straightforwardly with our ex-accomplice, which have been suppressed before. 

Punching a pad and crying uninhibitedly for 10 minutes 

Shouting out loud and envisioning undesirable vitality being discharged with your voice (genuinely, I’ve done a reflection that joined this, and I in a flash felt better). 

Writing in a diary (more on this later). 

Practice and body development. 

Contemplating. 

3. Adore Yourself 





The act of adoring yourself is the most critical angle on making progress toward individual joy and passionate solidness. I’ve by and by had my most important self-awareness spurts amid the period when I overwhelmingly dealt with this part of my life. 

I did everything from cooking myself extravagant meals, to spending each Sunday all alone doing the things that I cherished, to taking myself to Symphonies, to taking abroad excursions all alone. Every one had its own particular difficulties and went up against my convictions about depression. Through conquering the trepidation of forlornness, I encountered profound happiness without anyone else. It was so satisfying, reviving and enabling. 

Here are a few thoughts to develop the specialty of adoring yourself: 

Take yourself on sentimental dates as though you were out on the town with someone else. Put on pleasant garments, possibly purchase yourself blossoms, treat yourself to something delightful, and take long strolls under the stars. Whatever your concept of a sentimental date is. 

Take a gander at yourself in the mirror. Look at yourself without flinching. Grin somewhat with your eyes. Work on offering appreciation to what you see. You don’t require words. Simply convey the purpose of giving a wealth of affection to the eyes that you see, and feel the sentiments of adoration inside of you. As you are investigating your eyes, search for something you appreciate about your eyes – perhaps the shading, the shape, the profundity, the outlandishness, or even the length of your eye lashes. This will be somewhat bizarre and uncomfortable at to begin with, yet simply believe me, and proceed with it. Do this for a couple of minutes consistently. 

Sit or remain before a mirror, or sit some place agreeable (blend it up, and do both on diverse days), put both hands on your mid-section and say to yourself, “I cherish you, <insert your name>”. Rehash a couple times, gradually. Proceed with qualities you like about yourself, or things you are great at. Be liberal and list numerous, regardless of the fact that they sound senseless. Case, “I cherish that you generally know how to make your servings of mixed greens so bright and appealing.”, “I adore that you have the order to go to the rec center frequently, and you truly deal with your body.”, “I cherish that you are so slick, and can keep your work area so sorted out.” 

Work on doing things all alone to challenge your apprehension of being distant from everyone else. For instance, on the off chance that you have a trepidation of eating alone in an eatery, go out to an eatery all alone. Your main goal is to discover the delight inside of that experience. 

4. Love Your Ex-Partner 




Permit the affection inside of you to stream. Take a stab at honing absolution and open up your heart. 

In the course of recent months, my companion Tom Stine and I have been CHATTINGabout the subject of overcoming breakups. Tom had been hitched for a long time and experienced a separation that took him 2 years to candidly recoup from. At the point when gotten some information about how he got over his ex, he had a couple of scraps of shrewdness to pass on: 

“I let myself cherish her. Notwithstanding when it felt like my heart was going to break. Adyashanti says something astonishing – when individuals say, ‘My heart feels like it will break.’ He says, ‘Let it break. In the event that you let it truly break – outrageously break, it will change you.'” 

“LET YOUR HEART BREAK WIDE OPEN. Relinquish every conceivable conviction or imagined that says your ex is something besides the most unimaginable, stunning, brilliant individual in the Universe. You gotta adore them and open your broken heart, WIDE OPEN!!!! That is the manner by which to get over a separation, truly get over it. Anything shy of that is not going to do it.” 

“The key for me was getting absolutely clear: we are separated, and the Universe never commits errors. We are over. Also, I can in any case love her. That was HUGE. I can love her with my entire existence and soul and we never must be as one. Also, when I understood that, I felt astounding. What’s more, still do. The flexibility was incredible. I could at last own-up to the amount I needed out of our relationship. All the hurt and outrage vanished. I was free.” 

The hidden message of affection in Tom’s words is really clear and capable. 

5. Give it Time 

It requires investment to recuperate. Be quiet. Give it additional time. I guarantee the tempest will end, and the sun will top through the mists. 

6. Diary Your Experience 





Invest some quality energy in an agreeable seat, at your work area or at a bistro, and compose your musings and emotions on paper. Actually no, not writing on a portable PC, composing on paper with a pen. Take after your heart and stream openly, yet in the event that you’re trapped, here are some written work practices you can do: 

Drill into the why – Start with an inquiry or articulation, and keep on penetrating into why you feel that route until you have a honest and fulfilling reason. The activity isn’t to issue accuse or let loose a little at another person. It’s intended to pick up clarity and understanding into how you feel, so you can mitigate superfluous agony. For instance, you may begin with the announcement, “I am in a considerable measure of agony, ouch!”, and your why may be “on account of she exited me”. Presently ask yourself, “why does that hurt so much?”, and one conceivable why may be, “on account of I feel surrendered”. The accompanying why to “why does feeling deserted hurt so much?”, “in light of the fact that it makes me feel alone”, and so forth. More than likely, the genuine reason has something to do with our own insecurities or fears. 

Discovering the Lessons – What did you gain from the relationship? What did you gain from the other individual? How is your life better due to it? In what manner will your future connections be better on account of it? 

7. Peruse Something Inspirational 





Books that arrangement with our feelings and self image are mind blowing devices during an era of mending. They illuminate our comprehension of ourselves and our encounters. 

Here are some prescribed books: 

The Power of Now 

You Can Heal Your Life (Illustrative Edition) 

Adoring What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life 

Separating Words: Healing from Breakup 

“Each relationship will end sometime in the not so distant future, whether by separation or by the passing of one accomplice. Connections have cycles. They are conceived, they live, and they kick the bucket. Much the same as all aspects of life. It is just a piece of life.” 

–Tom Stine 

Socially, we see the end of an association with a negative implication and give it the name of a ‘disappointment’. Because a relationship has finished does not imply that the relationship was a disappointment. Both sides likely picked up something significant in either finding out about themselves or for the advantage of future organizations. 

Catch the excellence of time shared together, and note the profitable life lessons learned. Be appreciative for having encountered love, and realize that you are a superior individual as a result of it. 

No test is ever displayed to us, in the event that we are un-ready to handle it. 

For those right now seeing someone, esteem and respect your accomplice for who they are as structure and shapeless Beings. Acknowledge the truth that life is brimming with change, and hit the dance floor with the progressions and out of this world. What’s more, when they come, see every one as an open door for self-improvement – when you do that, nothing is lost. 

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